Sexual assault of a 10 year old girl

A mournful mother from Moza Chandia came in to a police station and lodged a complaint of her 10 year old girl with eyes full of tears. She called Abu Harira to take her television for repairing because her TV was not working. The culprit came to her house, took the TV and Ab*’s daughter with him to repair her mother’s TV.

Her daughter did not returned home for hours. She got upset and went with other local people to look for her daughter. A local guy who saw them earlier told them the way they were going to. Victim’s mother heard her daughter screaming from the fields. When they galloped in to the fields, people caught the culprit sexually abusing the S* (victim). The local people delivered the culprit to police. Police registered the case under section 376 and started investigating the case.

Sexual Harassment of a girl by his own brother, uncle and servant

When we talk about abuse it might be physical emotional or sexual. When we talk about child abusing it become very hard to identify the type and even some of them stay in a longer relationship for years without analysing that they are trapped. In this blog a similar case of a girl is being highlighted who is grown up to an adult but unfortunately could not avoid those old and bad memories. She stated on a social forum without mentioning her name that it was her own people who harassed her sexually. It was her brother uncle and servant who abused her. She wrote,” At the age of 5 my servant abused me whom my parents trusted a lot. My parents were working and usually left me in the custody of that servant who would give me evil eye and try to touch my private parts”.

She also stated “At the age of 10 my uncle abused me once that ruined my life and trust from all the relationships, one day my uncle came to my room and started seeing me with an evil eye and started touching my private parts, that made me uncomfortable but I could not do anything to stop him”.

She also stated that at the age of 15 her brother started abusing her and tried to convince her to perform that evil act with him. He would come to me whenever I used to be alone and would start touching my private parts and would force me to allow him to do the evil act. Whenever he tried to do such act I would start shouting and ran away from him.

My brother is married now and happy with his wife and enjoying the life but the memory he gave to me had destroyed my life and disturbed me mentally.

The time has passed and many things has been changed around her but the only things that did not changed was those bad memories which she could not forget.

Harassment Filters

One (of many) incidents that's burned in my memory: I was running through the downtown in a small city where I went to college. I was standing on a street corner with another woman waiting for the walk sign to turn. During the red light, a Jeep with four college-aged kids started screaming in my direction. I heard, "Hey, running girl, nice ass. You should go to formal with my friend!" Then they all started screaming about how I should go to this dance with this guy, who was apparently in the car. The red light seemed to last forever, while they yelled things like "You can wear that if you want," "Look at those legs," and "It's tomorrow night, can you come?!" I felt humiliated, and I looked to the woman next to me for some comfort in this shared moment. She didn't make eye contact, and avoided looking at me or the Jeep. When the light finally turned green, they screeched away, and I turned to the woman and said something like, "Wow that was embarrassing," and she looked at me, turned red, and quickly went away without saying anything. The worst part about the whole thing, honestly, is when I think back to the woman I was standing with. I hate that what those men did singled me out, and in turn, singled her out. Obviously, I don't ever want to be treated that way, but I also don't want men turning women against each other.

Why there is an increase in child harassment in Pakistan

Child harassment is a vicious act but unfortunately increasing rapidly on daily basis. A report highlighted that only in KASUR 12 cases of child harassment had been reported. The increase in number is drastic as compared to the previous year. The increase in child harassment cases might be due to the execution of monster Imran in Zainab rape case. Whatever the reason might be but we need to understand why people commit such a cruel vicious and monstrous act.

Few reasons have been highlighted for committing such sins are as follow.

Delay in Marriages:

            The norms and beliefs of our society had been greatly influenced by the neighbouring societies. We have acquired a lot of act which were not the part of our society. We being a Muslim believe on early marriages but unfortunately this act had become very difficult to perform by making the marriages functions expensive and changing the goals of life. We consider marriage is a burden and try to delay it to enjoy the life but sexual desires cannot be controlled. As a result we commit such sins. 

Lack of Knowledge and Awareness:

            The education regarding sex is still being a taboo in Pakistan. This is the actual matter to discuss at open forum. This is because of lack of education which we should get from our parents but unfortunately due to societal norms and beliefs it become very difficult to discuss such type of topic with parents. As a result these cases are increasing with every passing day in Pakistan. If we educate our children regarding these issues and tell them the dos and don’ts, it will be very easy for children to avoid such elements.

Pornography:

            Pornography has ruined the life of shaheen’s of Iqbal (Youth). It is very common to see the pornographic content over the internet because almost on every website you will see ads and pop-ups having pornographic content. Whenever any person surfing internet for completion of a task these ads or window pop-ups come across them. The government should draw a mechanism to ban these websites.

No Rule of Law:

            The law of Pakistan has many loop holes that helps the culprit to avoid the execution in crime they had committed. Our law and order agencies are not fulfilling their responsibilities in true letter of spirit. As a result people avoid to report cases of this nature because of their firm belief that instead of solving the issue police will create more problem for them and their families. The government should work hard to bring these culprits under the rule of law.

The ultimate solution to avoid these vicious acts is to follow the teachings of Islam and create awareness.

If it happens to you

I experienced it a lot of times and in different places. Honestly, I don’t wear revealing clothes. I grew up in a conservative family. I don’t wear shorts, above the knee dresses and skirts, sleeveless, tube, etc. But no matter how non-revealing the clothes I am wearing, I am not safe from street harassment. No matter what you wear, no matter how you walk, no matter how you act, they will do it to you and they don’t care if it could hurt you, or worse, if it will traumatize you. While waiting for a public transport in a bus stop, the drivers and even their passengers (vehicles that were passing by) were catcalling me. There was one time that I was walking from school to our home, there were a group of boys laughing and slurring something to me. Inside the grocery store, there were men (around the ages of 20 to 26, I guess) stalking me and were leering. Inside a bus, I was about to come out but still waiting in line because a lot of us were coming out, when suddenly, someone was touching my waist and he’s acting like it was all accidental when in fact he did it thrice. I was walking home, when a motorcycle came by (a driver & a passenger, both are men) and touched my breasts then, they drove so fast that I couldn’t see their faces. Another time this happened when I was also walking home. There were two boys riding a bike when they passed by me, suddenly one of them touched my thigh. Everything happened so fast that I froze and I just cried. Honestly, as of now, I am still in trauma about the street harassment that I had experienced. I cry a lot of times every time I remember those incidents. Some of those happened a couple of months ago, and one of those happened hours ago. I searched in Google about street harassment and it led me to this website. I don’t know if I already need to seek for help from a psychiatrist or someone that could help me. I no longer feel safe and everything that has happened to me is really hurtful.

why ME?

Why me?

He was the director of a large organization who had just delivered a speech to my college class. I’m a soon-to-be college grad who’s looking for a job in marketing. And he had a position available that was right up my alley.As it turned out, the job was right—but the situation was all wrong. He, a businessman more than 30 years older than me, was "attracted" to more than just the luster of my intellect, experience, and skill set.Let me share with you what happened that day. After his presentation was over, I approached him to ask a few questions about his organization. We decided to grab a table to sit down and continue the conversation.I sat down, and then he took the chair right next to me—on the same side of the four-seater table. I found it a bit strange, but I continued on with our conversation, which soon turned to the position he was trying to fill.His next move was to put his arm around me. I leaned forward to separate the physical touch and continued with what I was saying. I was uncomfortable, but I wanted to learn more, so I went along with the conversation, pushing his uncomfortable gestures out of my mind.But it didn’t end there. As he was giving me his business card, he flipped it over and wrote his home address. Then, he invited me over on the weekend—an offer that disoriented me so much I couldn’t even speak. A few minutes later, as we were leaving, I went to shake his hand—and he ignored me and kissed me on the top of my head.We parted ways, and I drove off with a swirling mind and a turning stomach. I was hurt and annoyed, and I was frustrated by the fact that my attempts to forge a professional connection were treated this way. Why did he think this was acceptable? Why did he push the boundaries so far and use the guise of a job offering in order to slip inappropriate actions and words into our meeting?I also felt ashamed and even wondered if what happened was in some way my fault. But rationally, I knew it wasn’t—and I wanted to do something about it.I started by asking several women who I look up to what they would do if they were in my situation. I didn’t use his name or organization—I simply wanted to know how they thought I should handle it. Their responses? Most of them said something along the lines of, “Well, don’t ever apply for a job from that company again,” and, “Get used to this type of inappropriate behavior, because this is going to happen to you many times.” Only one of the women I talked to said that I should mention or acknowledge it to him. I was stunned. But despite this advice, I knew I had to act. If I didn’t at least acknowledge his specific actions, then he may go on with what he is doing, not even realizing (although he probably does) the inappropriateness of his behavior. If I didn’t say something, then who would? So I did. I drafted him an email, which I’ll share with you in a minute. And I continued to seek feedback from respectable women. However this time, I started off by telling them about what happened, and then I described my plan of action. And now, I got a very different reaction than before. Every single one of the women I told about the details of my planned response almost jumped out of their chairs with joy and pride. Actually, two literally did. No one told me, “Get used to it” or, “Well, don’t work there.” It made me wonder if really, we are not afraid to fight, we just don’t know which weapons to use. We have trouble identifying the tactic for confrontation or the best way to engage in dialogue. But we can’t let this hold us back. Obviously, each situation is unique and needs a unique response. And sometimes, letting an incident go may, in fact, be the best option. But in my situation, I knew I needed to address with this man what I had experienced. And that I needed to share it with you—in case you ever experience something similar.

This is what I wrote:

Dear Mr. _______, 

Great to hear from you. My apologies for the delayed response. I was kept busy this week wrapping up a big project as well as several school midterms. It was a pleasure meeting you this week. Thank you again for presenting at my school as well as the extra time that you gave me following the event. I am humbled by your offer to create and execute a winning marketing strategy for your organization. However after much consideration, I have decided that this opportunity, while enticing, is not the match for me. At this time, I am going to continue pursuing my passion for business within the technology and consumer products realms. Also, because I do have much respect for you and wish you the best of luck in the future, I feel obliged to mention this to you. As a young woman, I was uncomfortable with several of the things that you said and did (such as kissing me on the head, putting your arm around me, and giving me your home address and offering to meet on the weekend). While I am sure that you meant these gestures in a grandfatherly manner, just a heads up those actions could be interpreted differently. Again, I wish you nothing but the best in the future. I am glad that we met and am both thankful for the opportunity to work with you as well as what you taught me during our time together last week. As I was drafting and contemplating sending this, he called me after 8 PM and told me that he had been thinking about me, that he was interested in hiring me, and that he would keep calling me until I responded. And with that, I hit send. And he responded—a glossed-over response in which he “thanked” me for not misinterpreting his actions, complimented my business skills, and invited me to attend the conference he is hosting in the future.I hoped that my email would get through to him, but his response appears to indicate that is not the case. But I do hope I at least planted the seed for him to think twice and subsequently to change his future actions. And no matter what, I’m still glad that I spoke up. I think the reason that many women told me not to say anything was so that I would be protected and kept safe. But the truth is, no one should have to put up with harassment or discrimination of any sort, in any environment. Being “safe” should be defined not as staying silent; but instead, as speaking up and addressing situations like these ones. Silence is what keeps victims of all types from escaping guilt and shame. Silence is what gives some people permission to do the things that they know are inappropriate. Taking action, on the other hand, is the only way to create the change you wish to see in the world. It can be scary, it can be uncomfortable, and, no, it might always work—but it’s the only opportunity we have to create a better future.

Man Rapes His Two Daughters in Punjab

Man allegedly rapes his two daughters in Gujranwala District, Punjab reported.

The Police official stated that X* had married Y*, the residents of a village near Qila Dedar Singh. He mentioned that married couple had two daughters aged 14 years old A* and 12 years old B*.

He added that Muzammil, the culprit allegedly assaulted A* six months back while he abused B* a week ago. And this whole was being told to victims’ mother.

He said the mother informed her Brother Z* about the incident and he then lodged the complaint against the suspect at the Police Station.

He mentioned that victims were shifted into the local hospitals for medical treatment and examinations. However, initial reports were in wait. The culprit was running while Police authorities started interrogations.

Earlier the girl was iteratively raped by her father for past seven months in Faisalabad Chak Jhumra Area.

The survivor’s mother, a resident of Chak No 199-RB, Fakhrabad complained at the police station in which she mentioned that she works as maid in the houses while her husband works as laborer in the factory.

She added that X* had been sexually assaulting their 15 year old daughter for the last seven months when she was alone in the house. The women mentioned in her complaint that as result of repeated assaults and rapes, her daughter became pregnant. She said that X* also threatened their daughter of dire consequences if she ever spoke about the ordeal.